Like most who have been in love, I know that I love is hard work. It starts off easy and carefree until reality sets in and then there you find that there are just two people who are alike in some ways and different from others and who have to find ways to interact with and love one another in spite of their differences. Love is work. But, I’ve learned, the work you have to do for the one you love shouldn’t be a complete drain on you, making you question or wonder if all of the stress and strain is worth it. No, the kind of work you do for love should come naturally and should be worth it. When I look back at the work I’ve put into my current relationship, I don’t envy any of it for a second because I believe that any effort I’ve put in has been returned to me. Love will be hard, but it should never be too hard. I’ve discovered that, if you’re hurt more than you’re happy, you’re not with the right one.
I’ve unveiled a universal truth about love: it can stand alone. There can be love without the other elements I’ve mentioned above. That love can be real and it can be meaningful, but it is not the kind of love you want to give your whole heart and soul to. True love, the real kind that both gets your blood pumping with excitement and has the ability to stand the test of time, comes not alone but hand-in-hand with respect, trust, honesty, and forgiveness. If you don’t have those things in your relationship, then you don’t have true love and you’re missing out on some of the vital elements that make being in love worthwhile. Love alone can be wonderful, intoxicating, but it alone cannot stand the test of time. It’s taken me quite awhile to determine this, but it’s something I now know for sure.